F. R. I. E. N. D. S.
Got the feeling last night, that post marriage I seem to have lost touch with a whole lot of friends. Bumped into a college mate @ Raintree last night. She was going into watch the Portugal - England quarterfinal at Havana Lounge while Megha and me were just leaving the place after attending a wedding reception.
She had been in the city almost 4 months or so – but I somehow never got to meet her. Life was just too hectic for weekend socializing. I travel 3 days a week – sometimes more – though off late it has been lower than that – thanks to some pressures that keep me in the Chennai Metro – thank God for that. However. It is going to be back to the normal 3 days a week for me from now on. Which means weekends are really packed – with shopping, catching up with sleep, spending the much talked about “quality time” with Megha and of course the weekly trip to “Surya Green” :)
Frankly does not leave too much time for anything else - other than an ample amount of guilty feeling of not staying in touch with friends.
These people meant something to me – in my 2 years at XL and 4 years at Motilal. However the rat race seems to have faded memories leaving behind the occasional pang of remorse, which tends to die away with the oncoming Monday.
Staying in touch means not just talking on the phone – which I guess I am not too bad at – airport lounges provide the perfect timing and setting for that! However meeting people is a different ballgame all together – now that is a real commitment in terms of time and effort.
Am I in the wrong job?
Am I am inefficient employee?
Am I no more the extrovert I was in college?
Am I plain lazy – after all guilt is easier to live with vis-à-vis the effort at meeting up with people?
Is this just a phase?
Am I just jobless – to be troubled by these “meaningless” thoughts? After all the friendships were not that shallow that they won’t survive a couple of months of no contact. My friends after all do understand – the “Fresh Marriage” Syndrome!
Now that is something for my next posting!
Well I have decided – lots of friends home for the weekend – lunch / dinner whatever – but socializing the family way J - after all I am married and have a cozy home to show off J
She had been in the city almost 4 months or so – but I somehow never got to meet her. Life was just too hectic for weekend socializing. I travel 3 days a week – sometimes more – though off late it has been lower than that – thanks to some pressures that keep me in the Chennai Metro – thank God for that. However. It is going to be back to the normal 3 days a week for me from now on. Which means weekends are really packed – with shopping, catching up with sleep, spending the much talked about “quality time” with Megha and of course the weekly trip to “Surya Green” :)
Frankly does not leave too much time for anything else - other than an ample amount of guilty feeling of not staying in touch with friends.
These people meant something to me – in my 2 years at XL and 4 years at Motilal. However the rat race seems to have faded memories leaving behind the occasional pang of remorse, which tends to die away with the oncoming Monday.
Staying in touch means not just talking on the phone – which I guess I am not too bad at – airport lounges provide the perfect timing and setting for that! However meeting people is a different ballgame all together – now that is a real commitment in terms of time and effort.
Am I in the wrong job?
Am I am inefficient employee?
Am I no more the extrovert I was in college?
Am I plain lazy – after all guilt is easier to live with vis-à-vis the effort at meeting up with people?
Is this just a phase?
Am I just jobless – to be troubled by these “meaningless” thoughts? After all the friendships were not that shallow that they won’t survive a couple of months of no contact. My friends after all do understand – the “Fresh Marriage” Syndrome!
Now that is something for my next posting!
Well I have decided – lots of friends home for the weekend – lunch / dinner whatever – but socializing the family way J - after all I am married and have a cozy home to show off J
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